Something I've learned as a new wife is that being selfless and loving unconditionally does not happen over night. It takes work, just like anything else we want to be good at. The good news is God want's our marriages to succeed and all we need to do is reach out and ask for His help and He will move unrelentlessly in our relationships. There is power in prayer, I truly believe that. Here are a few things I have been praying to help me be a better and stronger wife...
I pray that I will make God ultimate in my life. Help me to love you first.
This is so important! How do we know how to love if we don't know the greatest love of all, which comes from Jesus, am I right? Remembering and asking the Lord to keep Him first is the life line to a lasting marriage. Also, growing your relationship with God will automatically grow your relationship with your spouse, it's unavoidable. (read Matthew 22:37)
Teach me to be a women of grace and wisdom.
It's easy to point the finger and blame everyone and their mamas for things that go wrong, especially in marriages. It's the easy thing to do. The hard thing is to look at yourself and take responsibility for your actions or reactions. I want to be a wife so full of grace and wisdom that my attitude will not be based on my husbands actions but be rooted in Gods great love, can I get an Amen?! (read 1 Peter 3:41)
Continue to grow my patience; that we, as a couple will be quick to listen and slow to speak.
This is something I pray over myself and my marriage EVERY DAY, throughout the day. I even ask the people close to me to pray for more patience. Let's be honest, there is no one that knows how to push your buttons like your husband, regardless if he knows he's doing it or not. I'd say we as wives and husbands can never have to much patients in marriage. (read James 1:19-20)
Help me to be content in every circumstance.
Life is full of peaks and valleys. The Bible promises that. Let us be wives who are steady, consistent and content during the high points in lives as well as through the storms. Again, I am constantly striving to be so rooted in Gods great love that I won't be shaken by what life throws at me. Doesn't that sound great?! (read Philippians 4:11)
I pray that I will become the wife my husband needs me to be.
Every once and a while when emotions are high I have to remind myself that Zack and I are on the same team and that we are for each other and not agents each other. Ask God to change your heart and mold you into the team player your marriage will thrive on. I can't fill and support my husband on my own, I need God's help! (read Proverbs 31:10)
Thanks for reading guys! Keep praying over yourself and your marriage. Nothing is to big, to small or to silly for God.